Online dating is not necessarily like real life dating and adheres to a different set of rules in the onset. Although similar in some ways and distinctly different in other ways, their ultimate goal is one – play to win and don’t get catfished!! Whether you have been dating online for years or you just opened an account a few minutes ago, there are a couple of important pointers for you to ponder.
Here are some practical Do’s and Don’ts of online dating that can exponentially heighten your chances of long-term dating success.
The Do’s of online dating:
1. Play the game: dating is a game, like it or not. You have to play it to win. This implies that whenever you come across an eye catching profile of someone you would not mind dating; send him or her a flirty wink, cool email or an enticing icebreaker and the game is on.
2. Represent the real you: Honesty from the start is always the best policy and it is prudent that you represent yourself fairly. This includes giving your age without shaving off some years, showing your current photos and not the decade-old photos, do not exaggerate your income and so on. You are far more likely to attain true success if you are honest and open about yourself. There is no reason then why you shouldn’t expect the same from the person you are dating.
3. Keep it short: Always give an appetizer. Do not ruin your prospects appetite by feeding him or her with entree-sized portions before the main course. Reveal interesting little tid-bits here and there but always keep them hungry for more.
4. Be cautious: I hope this goes without saying. Do not give out your home address, personal information, off-site email address and your full name. There may be that one or two instances where the other person makes you feel like you have known them your whole life and if that is the case then there is no reason why they wouldn’t be willing to meet you in a public place the first few dates. This advice is not to be taken lightly and serves best for safety purposes.
The Don’ts of online dating:
1. Do not confess all about yourself: this is not therapy. Save your stifled anger, insecurities and secrets a secret for now. There is nothing more attractive to the opposite sex than a little mystery. Let them use their imagination and chances are it will work out in your favor.
2. Do not divulge too much too soon: Rome wasn’t built in a day neither will your new relationship be. During the getting-to-know-you process be open and friendly while still maintaining a sense of secretiveness. Share enough information about yourself to excite, entice, and/or intrigue your potential match, whilst still leaving him or her wanting more.
3. Do not lead someone on: Always be polite, kind, and courteous. If you’re not interested in someone, be upfront as soon as possible. The feelings aren’t always going to be mutual and there is nothing wrong with that.
4. Last but not least and again…Do not endanger your personal safety: Your welfare and well-being are far more important than trying to please a virtual stranger by doing something that feels risky or else unsafe. Personal safety should be your first priority when it comes to dating, particularly in online dating. Never give personal identifying information, and never agree to meet a complete stranger in an unfamiliar place by yourself.