If your relationship is on the rocks due to a disrespectful partner, there are several things you can do to turn it around but the time to act is now. Although respect must be earned, there are too many couples that allow their significant other to talk down to them. To some people, “respect” may be just a word, but it is one of our most basic needs as human beings and there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be held in high esteem, especially by the partner of your choice.
The cornerstone to any and all successful relationships is success. The loss of respect can quickly destroy a couple but for those that do decide to stay, the one being disrespected often does not deserve it and finds themselves leading a life of quiet destitute. So how does one come out of their shell after being repeatedly shunned by a rude partner?
The first thing to think about is when did you fall into the pattern of treating each other disrespecting each other or is it usually one sided? The good news is that if one person makes a good faith effort to change things, there is certainly hope for re-establishing respect in the relationship. There has been a significant amount of research in this area and there are proven principals that have been uncovered to correct this all important issue.
The initial phase on re-establish respect in your relationship starts by telling yourself that this behavior is unacceptable and has got to stop. Now is not the time to be focusing on your partner’s flaws or all the things they have done to hurt you, but to rec-hannel that energy on improving your own self-esteem. Start by holding yourself in a higher regard and others will have no other choice but to follow suite. Take responsibility for how people treat you and make it clear that you are done with being disrespected. The temptation to correct your partner’s behavior may be great but this approach is unlikely to work at this stage. In the meantime, you may want to communicate with your mate the fact that you will be taking some time out for yourself over the next few days and it is in the best interest of the relationship that they interact with you on an as need basis.
After about a week of clearing your head and reclaiming your confidence, this is where you will want to rely in the “Golden Rule” – treat others the way you want to be treated. Not only do you deserve respect but so does your partner. Begin by focusing on all the attributes that you love about your mate and make the decision to only think on those things until you find yourself appreciating the unique qualities that person has brought to your life. Paying your partner a compliment here and there and out of nowhere can work wonders on how they start to treat you too.
It may not happen overnight but if you stand your ground while taking your partners feelings into consideration, these two simple switches could completely change the fat of your relationship.
Now that you are starting to create an environment and atmosphere of mutual respect, you will want to schedule a heart-to-heart with your partner. Plan a date and pick a place that brings out the best in both of you. Let them know that you have been putting a lot of thought and effort into making your relationship one that is not only supportive but mutually satisfying. Discuss different ways you can communicate more effectively, make your needs known, come up with ways you can solve problems without putting each down and agree to accept one another’s differences.
You will soon come to realize, the real key to re-establishing respect in your relationship simply boils down to accepting and learning to appreciate each other’s differences. Opposites attract for a reason!! So before you decide to walk away, give some attention to supporting one another strengths and see if together you can create a dynamic duo.