Let’s not be sexist here. There are as many women out there dating other men when they have a boyfriend, as there are men dating other women when they have a girlfriend.
Or even worst! When they are married!
The need to protect yourself emotionally and not to waste your personal time has no gender bias.
Yet the signs men display when they are two-timing can be distinctively different from women.
And at the same time, you should not interpreted signs as clear evidence of a two-timing jerk. Very often, certain behaviors are just normal even though every cell in your body tells you otherwise. Everybody is different in their own way. Who are we to say how someone should behave?
Here are some very suspicious signs that he has a girlfriend. Although they can appear as small acts, but they can have great implications.
1) He is nocturnal
While there is a minority of people who sleeps in the day and does their business at night, most people get their beauty sleep at night.
Unless you already have knowledge that he works night shifts and therefore lives day and night in reverse, only being contactable at night can be kind of odd.
Even if you called him and he did not pick up during the day, he’d only return the missed calls late at night. And your messages don’t get replied to until the night too.
If we look at the negative possibilities why his behavior is as such, it is because he has to either wait till his girlfriend is not around, or after his wife has fallen to sleep, to give you a call.
2) Rejects video calls all the time
A decade ago, the general public was not receptive to video calls as people were still self-conscious about it.
But these days, it is part and parcel of life.
It not like you have to make every call a visual one. It’s more like there is no longer a huge resistance for people to make or accept video calls.
This is why when the guy you are dating is always happy to reply quickly to your messages or eager to answer your voice calls, BUT simply refuse to pick up video calls, you might want to give Houston a call. Because you might have a problem.
It could be because he is in the presence of a girlfriend, at home with his wife, kids, or friends who would tell on his adulterous tendencies to his wife.
And if he is not careful, a simple video call can cause him a lot of trouble at home.
3) The only way to get in touch is when he calls
He don’t answer you phone calls. He doesn’t reply to text messages. This is even when you can see the check marks on Whatsapp that he has read your text.
Yet he doesn’t reply or respond until he feels like it… which can be 5 hours later.
Every time you call him, it either an unanswered call or a dead tone to to connection failure. The only way you can ever hear his voice is when he calls.
Men like these are a little shady. Maybe they work as Ninjas.
I suggest that you to run while you still can.
4) His phone is like a body part… never leaving his side
Everyone would have some embarrassing stuff on our mobile phones. Some might be chats, some might be embarrassing videos, or even selfies that make us too fat.
It makes perfect sense that we don’t ever want these unglamorous material of us see daylight.
But the point is that no one will be able to see them just by glancing over our shoulders. In fact, someone would probably have to dig deep into chat histories or social feeds to see these stuff.
And on top of that, even though these things could be embarrassing, they are usually stuff that you don’t mind explaining to friends anyway… just for fun and something to laugh over.
So if the man you are dating is fiercely protective over his privacy on the smart phone, you must ask yourself the question why.
If a man is interested in you and has nothing to hide, he’d not be so afraid of the prospect of you spending a minute with his cell phone for as little as a minute. He don’t even let you casually peek into it when sitting side-by-side.
Maybe he knows that he is toast when you see the photos of him and his girlfriend. Or the chats he has had with her. Or the interactions with his wife on Facebook. Or the personal emails with his mistress.
And even worse… his own celebrity “sex tape” style type of videos. And you are not in it.
5) You number is saved under a weird alias on his phone
It is not uncommon for us to save the numbers of suitors under pet names or aliases.
And they are usually self-explanatory like:
- Boy Boy
You can tell that the few aliases above probably belong to someone you are dating.
So it can be a bad sign if you are saved on his phone as something like:
- Office supplies
- Ebay buyer 4
- Alex (which is obviously not your name)
- Anonymous (very clever)
This is a very big indication that something is wrong. It’s one of the clearest signs that you are being played. You better get to the bottom of it before you get too deep into the relationship.
6) Never available on weekends and public holidays
A rich guy I went out with recently made me a pretty bold proposal. I felt disgusted. Yet I had to applaud his directness.
He offered to buy me a sports car and provide a monthly allowance above the average executive wage. I would then have to make myself available for him at anytime during weekdays. And I have to promise never to bother him on weekends and public holidays because those days are meant for time with his wife and kids.
Successful men who have become wealthy through sheer hard work or inheritance are usually married early. You can’t blame their opportunistic girlfriends for closing the deal as soon as they can.
The thing is that these man have work as the perfect excuse to stay out late into the night and even spend nights away from home as they are “too busy with work” or “traveling”.
But make no mistake about it. They are smart people. And a divorce due to infidelity is going to REALLY cost them.
It shouldn’t surprise you if your boyfriend is already married if you never seem to see him on weekends.
7) Love making without the finale
On this point, I would only say that if his endurance is too much like a marathon runner than what you are used to… or that he doesn’t finish… he is probably getting some action somewhere else that excludes you.
8) Never invites you to his place
One of the first things a genuine single guy thinks about when dating a gal he fancies is taking her home to spend some alone time together on the couch and in bed.
If you have been seeing someone romantically for quite a while and have yet to ever been at his house or even invited to, you don’t need to be apologetic for feeling a little suspicious.
Maybe he has a messy place and don’t want you to see him living in that state. Fine.
But there is always a chance that he is hiding something at home.
Come to think of it, I’ve don’t think I’ve ever dated anyone and never been to his place by the fifth date.
9) Girly items in his car
Surely you don’t need me to elaborate on the implications here?
Some items to look out for include:
- Plush toys
- Sunscreen for women
- Sunglasses for women
- Child seat
- Baby safety lock
While these items can be suspicious, I wouldn’t say that they are definite signs of the presence of a girlfriend.
So do tactfully ask him about them. There might be legitimate reasons why these items are doing there in the first place.